3 Myths About Bullying After years of working in junior high and high schools as a school counselor, I learned a few things about bullies and their victims. Bullying is a deliberate and repetitive act of aggression against someone of lesser power. Bullies shop for victims, meaning that the victim is picked because he/she is vulnerable. Bullies get what they want in the short term, but often lose in the long term. Here are some common myths about bullying: 1. Bullies seek power because they …
Expectations of Mind-Reading Will Doom You
Often we consciously or subconsciously expect our partners to know what we want or need. Just this morning I spoke with a client who said "If my husband does not know that is what is expected then we have a big problem!" Different is fine, but mind-reading is not. Differences don't kill a relationship, but impossible expectations do. It is simply not humanly possible to mind-read and if you expect this in your relationships you will set yourself up for a lifetime of disappointments. How can …
Mother’s Day Blues
The Mother's Day Sadness So many times we hear how December and "the holidays' bring on depression, but I have noticed that Mother's Day can bring sadness, despair and depression for many. I primarily have noticed that woman who have struggled or are still struggling with infertility can be heart broken this time of year. Secondly I notice people who never had a good loving relationship with their mother can feel blue this time of year. And lastly those who have lost their mother can feel a …