Learning about therapy options can be confusing, but the good news is that there are many ways to help you feel better. It’s my job to choose the approach that I believe will be most effective, but it’s important to me that patients understand the techniques I use. One particularly effective treatment is called EMDR. Though relatively “new” in terms of psychotherapy, it has been around for more than 30 years. What is EMDR? Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a highly …
3 Myths About Bullying
3 Myths About Bullying After years of working in junior high and high schools as a school counselor, I learned a few things about bullies and their victims. Bullying is a deliberate and repetitive act of aggression against someone of lesser power. Bullies shop for victims, meaning that the victim is picked because he/she is vulnerable. Bullies get what they want in the short term, but often lose in the long term. Here are some common myths about bullying: 1. Bullies seek power because they …
Expectations of Mind-Reading Will Doom You
Often we consciously or subconsciously expect our partners to know what we want or need. Just this morning I spoke with a client who said "If my husband does not know that is what is expected then we have a big problem!" Different is fine, but mind-reading is not. Differences don't kill a relationship, but impossible expectations do. It is simply not humanly possible to mind-read and if you expect this in your relationships you will set yourself up for a lifetime of disappointments. How can …